I have learned that keeping busy is something that can be helpful when it comes to having obsessive thoughts. It has been 9 years since I had those thoughts about infidelity and the consequences of infidelity. I need to see that both men and women, gay and straight, cheat. I need to see that. How come? How come I can see that? Why can't the thoughts mesh with reality? I want to see things from all points of view. Jesus told the adulterous woman to go and sin no more. I recall that I had thoughts about infidelity. It was just random thoughts about infidelity mainly committed by women. All I know is that I will never truly know how something becomes so twisted. That is just how I feel about having obsessive thoughts. Over the years, I have become more anxious and even isolated in some cases. I do need a life of my own, especially a social life. I realize that learning to deal with people and being friends (or not friends) with them will take time. However, it is so much better than dealing with what I am dealing with right now.