How do I become proactive? Being proactive and consistent are two things that I need to work on. I realize that there have been things that I could do to be more proactive and more consistent. I just don't know how. I have been dealing with doubts and with hurt feelings and rude words for a long time. I can't take walking on eggshells at home and not know what to do. I have anxiety and I don't wish to live like this anymore. I, in truth, don't know what to do. I don't even know what to say. I want my family back to the way it used to be. We are not as close as we used to be. I have resigned myself to the fact that I am anxiety-ridden person who needs guidance and who needs to get out of the house more. I just cannot understand why anxiety is so tough to live sometimes. I am just being honest. I have no idea what to do and where to go.