The answer I so seek.

I just don't like women who would cheat on or hurt a good man.  There.  That is it.  That is why I have those obsessive thoughts about infidelity.  However I did not think that I would have obsessive thoughts that wouldn't just go away.  I was watching an episode of Sally Jessie Raphael's talking show many years ago. One of the female guests did the very same thing I have mentioned.  Turns out not only was she cheating, I became a total hypocrite because of this.  All of this stuff about having OCD thoughts and such have been hard for me.  It is now a relief.  I finally found the answer!  It all makes sense to me now.